Tyra banks dating instincts
I’d love to tell you that there’s a rule of thumb that will identify the difference between a gut feeling you must not ignore and one that you must overcome.
From time to time, you’re going to guess wrong; there’s no way around it.
Even a total jerk can be expected to be a nice guy 80% of the time.
And that 80% is all the positive reinforcement you need to stick around for too long with the wrong guy.
So if the rest of the world can see that someone is toxic, why do we stay?
If you were to be an impartial third-party judge of your own life, you might act differently.
But it’s a lot harder to leave your own neglectful boyfriend than it is to tell your girlfriend to dump hers.
You’ve learned that picking at the scab of an old argument has never, ever, in the history of your relationships, made anything better.
You’ve learned that nobody interesting is attracted to you when you act helpless. Or you can listen to your own judgment and your own experience, and you can admit that you have, in whatever painful way, probably learned a lot.